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If I ever doubted it before, I now believe it to my core: travel is about more than adventures and sightseeing. Travel expands our understanding of the world beyond our borders . . . and our understanding of our world back home. Twenty years ago this month—the summer of 1989—I spent twenty-eight days travelling throughout Russia, which was in its last days as the Soviet Union. World events being what they were, my parents still agreed to let their 18-year-old daughter get on a plane bound for the USSR. Now that I’m a mom, I realize how brave they must have been to do that. I imagine the only reason they agreed to let me go was because I’d be with a 30-person youth group sponsored by the U.S. State Department. Still, they get big points for letting me have that adventure.
Now here I am with my little boys in a foreign country, in the last days of our year-long adventure in Lowestoft, England. The situation is not even comparable in terms of fear—not because the world’s state of affairs is any more pleasant, but because of our location. Lowestoft is hardly stewing a revolution that will up-end an entire political system and philosophy. That said, sometimes I do still fear being Americans abroad, especially when we travel on trains and planes beyond the UK. For all kinds of reasons, some people outside America’s borders don’t like Americans. I’ve been warned at various times not to flaunt our nationality, not to make us targets for those who would act on their anger. But the thing is, it’s hard to hide my boys.
Out-going and vocally spirited four-year-old triplets, two identical and the other nearly so… well, people tend to notice us. I’ve tried to downplay our nationality (for example, the only time I berobed them in red-white-and-blue was for our Fourth of July celebrations) but I’ve stopped short of trying to put my family in a bubble. What kind of life would that be? We wouldn’t be here on this UK adventure at all if my husband and I took that approach. And what amazing things we would’ve missed then.
Take America’s historic 2009 presidential election, and the spirited primary season that preceded it. We were abroad for much of that, and I’ll tell you, it was an amazing experience to be reading the election news on the Internet, feeling like I was back at home for those few minutes I read, and then to walk out my door to British people asking me, “Hey, what do you think of Obama?” People in another country were as riveted by our elections as I was! It was eye-opening. I mean, I’d always been aware of world interest in our presidency in an abstract way, but now I was seeing it first hand. Were these folks who were questioning me as interested in previous presidential elections? I wonder. Certainly 2009’s presidential election was a U.S. election like no other, regardless of one’s choice of candidate or even one’s locale on the globe, and to experience it from beyond our borders, out in a world with people who had some very strong opinions about its outcome for reasons often quite different from America’s reasons, well, I consider that a true privilege. The thing is, all they could do was talk about it. I could act. I’d had our ballots sent to our England address, and my husband and I voted and mailed them back in plenty of time. No way would I have missed this election.
And now, after having had this ‘global’ election experience, I am once again reading news on the Internet about a presidential election—Iran’s. And the outcome is far more gorey. Comparing the two elections through the filter of my new world view, I understand in a far deeper way just how lucky I am to be an American, a citizen in a land where I can have my say and not worry that I’ll be gunned down because of it.
Well said my friend!! I always make the statement to people- that say and complain about
America–”there are lots of countries elsewhere and planes leaving every day too!! If it is
SO bad here— then move on to your destiny and leave room for those that feel blessed to be an American. I think the English in general really like us. I was around for the war in those terrible days they were struggling to survive and not get bombed out of their homes.
Our country sent troops etc over there to beat the Germans and save England and France. My husband was in it up to his elbows there, also. Somehow I still cannot figure why the French find it hard to agree!! Maybe because they never paid us back the $$$ they
owe us??? Enuff on that— bless you for all the good things that you all experienced and
get on that plane with faith in the pilot and a good airline taking you home again. bette
You make a fair point Debbie, but at the same time you should also realise that you five have, albeit in microcosm done your own bit for harmonious international understanding whilst you’ve been here. What comes through is that it’s really all about ordinary people going to work, raising their kids and attempting to be good neighbours whatever the nationality. You will be missed by bus drivers, bakers and of course teachers whose lives you have enriched during your year. Even if your boys in years to come only remember England as buses, cakes, steam engines and cool things to do well that’s no bad epithet for a country.
When you came here this was a foreign country and there’s been an interesting ‘shock of recognition’ thing in following your adventures in England through the blog and then seeing ordinary everyday things afresh. I hope you no longer feel like foreigners here as this was a place where you lived and were valued rather than just visited, and you will be missed.
Sad to say goodbye to your husband yesterday but I understand his final gig was good if a little wet and a nice way to end the year. Let’s hope it’s only Au revoir.
All the best, David and Ruth
Dad lived on RAF Station Bentwaters for four years and he came to know the British people well; we have visited England, France, Italy, Croatia and Canada…..and when we left the “tourist attractions” behind and mingled with the local populations we found people to be genuine with life situations similar to us here in the US. I sometimes feel that if “government politicians” were left out of the equation peoples might just get along better than they do now.
It was a little unsettling to let you explore the Soviet Union, but I know that the experience was something that served you well over the years. I believe traveling internationally broadens one’s horizons and whether it is for better or worse depends on how each individual absorbs their experience.
Look forward to having all of you here in good old San Diego, USA.
Mom
What an incredible journey we have had. Im so glad to hear that you feel this way about it and also that my collegues at home have had a positive experience too. Its been the best thing i have ever done. It will be great to talk to you in person about it. See you soon!